Algorithm for Love

Dating Apps

I couldn’t help but wonder what life is like without love. Some people say you might have three great loves in your entire life. I was lucky enough to have two great love of mine. Meeting people, dating and getting into relationships have certainly advanced, nowadays. We communicate differently in today’s fast-moving society and how we anticipate love to happen. But most of the time, the act of anticipating is a thrill itself. The chase and hunt get your adrenaline pumping, endorphins are released to stimulate you to heighten senses through dopamine.

Tinder, Grindr

“Searching for love and orgasms

one swipe at a time.”

It is a normalisation of nuances towards the new millennium. Old-fashion introduction just doesn’t cut anymore as society moved forward with the time. Studies have shown how men swipe indicate a simple and predictable pattern versus women who swipe capriciously.”

Let’s face it from Grindr to Tinder from across the board, there are all kinds of apps to be downloaded and profiles to be judged. People who collect photos or syncing photos from other individuals from a cloud-based app make what it is today in modern-day dating. The use of hashtags and geotagging has become a new norm for secret admirers or stalkers to accidentally bump into you. The algorithm for love and lust predicts a probable match between the data it gathers and intercepts. It’s a normalisation of nuances towards the new millennium.

Back in the day when personal ads run on papers or magazines, things are a little slow. Life was simple. The earliest form of personal classified ads or lonely hearts ads dates back to the 1800s. Ultimately, people want to search for a companion at the end of the day. We create our presence online because we want our profile portrayed in a certain way. Creating a perfect profile affects the way people see themselves. Often describing some realness through images, obtaining validation from others. People love the ideology of compatibility and amicability. A vision of acceptance but sometimes narcissist.

Companies designed dating apps are out to make money and believe me, they made a whole ton of cash through subscriptions. Multiply that by the number of the population who are single, separated, divorced or even married and still looking something on the side. It is capitalism at its best. This is how economics is forged through the masses bringing lucrative yields with recurring returns. The more premium you pay for your subscription, the higher the chances of meeting a quality candidate. Advanced smartphone app changes the way we meet people, we travel, we dine, the way you date and the way you have sex. The visibility from a profile monetized the industry simply because all the information is key and sex sells. All searching for love and orgasms one swipe at a time.

Social Network

“It’s a Dating Revolution or just a Dating Apocalypse?”

What seems to be the dating revolution, it would also mean the death of courtship as the majority of people do not know how to communicate face-to-face. They found themselves awkward in situations and does not hold brilliant conversations. While they are geniuses with technologies and gadgets but they have zero social skills. These have made them become introvert by nature. It is okay of getting rejected if you swipe left or get accepted by swiping right. Once the connection is made, its a swipe for success! The courtship between couples plays an important role. It deciphered the major characteristics of a person’s likes and dislikes. It eventually pivoted the decisive notion to be a couple. Millennials using slangs, and abbreviations that no older generation understood. It is an extreme disconnect. They break every dating rule on the handbook to be more susceptible to the new society. Have we finally discovered the algorithm for love? Swipe right now!

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Do you speak Prada?

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Speaking another language or being bi-lingual is a norm when you’re an Asian. You speak English as a first language and your Mother Tongue, which is your dialect or your race. I happen to speak 4 languages, lucky me! English as a first language, Malay and Bahasa Indonesia, although similar but different and last but not least, French. It’s tough growing up in a  school. You had to take a third language to be able to pass the semester as a special academia. Funny thing is I didn’t really learn French when I was in school, I learn it the hard way – Living in Paris, as everyone refuses to speak in English even if they knew. You tend to pick up the language fast. I speak of it less nowadays as most of my French friends have moved to several different cities. I, on occasion however practice it when I visit Alliance Française la bibliotheque or when I dine at Joél Robouchon restaurants. Some of the finest Maître d’ at the Atélier de Joél Robouchon seems to enjoy conversing with me. Maybe they were entertaining me and being polite haha oh how I missed Paris.

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“I want a Nero Venite 9, maybe a dressed shirt and a number 48 with satin lapel…perhaps with a Nero saffiano la Cinta”

Speaking Prada however is a totally different language altogether. Being able to speak in the definition of fashion per se. I met a friend in one of my shopping escapades in Hong Kong and we have not seen each other in 10 years since he moved to Hong Kong to start his journey (being somebody) We were rather more than friends. I decided to meet up with him for brunch. When spent the whole day and evening together. It was wonderful and I’m glad that we did.

Throughout the conversations we had in the day was all about fashion and what’s in trend, a bit about our news update and so on. I began saying to him “I want a Nero Venite 9, maybe a dressed shirt and a number 48 with satin lapel, perhaps with a Nero saffiano La Cinta” Ryan, immediately understood what I meant. Translation: “You want a black dressed leather shoe size 9, a pleated dressed shirt and a tuxedo suit with a classic black belt.” We both laughed! The terms used in this conversation described the color, style, materials used and the Italian sizing options in the current Autumn Winter collection like saffiano nero for example which describe an embossed black leather that Prada use on their leather goods. Ryan quickly quoted, “I always loved aesthetics. Not particularly fashion, but an idea of beauty.” – “Can you remember who spoke those immortal words?” Ryan asked me… “MIUCCIA PRADA!!!” I replied with excitement.

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Oddly enough, after brunch we find ourselves shopping in Prada, searching and trying that Venite dressed shoe that I desired for a wedding ootd. I bought 2 pairs of shoes that day. At the end of the day, speaking Prada is really the connection, the chemistry and the same frequency that you and your friend have. When you are so closed-knitted you can know what the other is thinking. It’s about friendship. But sadly, Ryan is not into Prada anymore, he has move on up to go with the infamous red bottom soles on his feet.

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“I always loved aesthetics. Not particularly fashion, but an idea of beauty.”

Miuccia Prada

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